Thank you so much to everyone who chimed in on my last post, where I asked for some advice regarding the crazy neighborhood family's little girl, and her friendship with my daughter.
You guys rock. And had some SERIOUSLY good advice.
Which I'm going to take.
Communication with the mother is just not going to happen, though. This was our one and only conversation:
Me, to boyfriend: Is it okay for Amanda to come inside the house to play?
Boyfriend: I guess. Wait, let me ask her mother.
He then yells something into the house to the girl's mom.
Mother, coming out onto the patio and looking at me like I'm crazy: WHAT is it that you want?
Me: I just wanted to make sure it was okay with you if Amanda came inside the house. I don't know what your rules are, so...
Mother: YES, it's fine.
Then she turned and walked back into the house, obviously annoyed that I had bothered her.
After that I stopped asking, and just let the poor girl in the house. I figured if her parents suddenly wanted to find her, I'd be a logical stop.
The next time I hear Amanda calling for Gabi, I'll go out and tell her that she needs to knock (since telling an adult would be pointless). And I'll continue to invite her over once or twice a week, while enforcing our house rules and keeping a close eye on the girls while they play.
We'll see how it goes!